She quoted: “True love never dies, even if you have found a new love, the sweet memory of the past will continue to hunt you for the rest of your life.”.
For me to really clarify what's wrong about this statement – I 'm not even going to call it a quote, by definition, a quote is a fact which is stated in words that lasts forever and never loses its meaning throughout time – I have to dissect it into smaller pieces and prove from there the fallacies that each piece contains.
So at the very beginning, “True love never dies”, to start, what is “true love”, I do not think such a thing even exists, have anyone ever heard about “untrue love” or “false love”, there's only “love”. I know that we define multiple levels of emotional attachments as “love”, but it really isn't; moreover, by that definition, pure physical attractions, emotional attention cravings, and even relationship familiarity can be defined as “love”, while clearly it's not. I know that on that specific subject a lot of confusion exists, and hence terms as “true love” are created and accredited as an existing fact; for one to really see through the blurriness of such confusions, one must to try to define “love” to the most deep of aspects.
Now, to the “never dies” part, this is purely emotional wishful thinking rather than rational, I do not know of any evidence that supports that assumption, although, in respect of all ideals, we hope it's true. However, I know of a fact that defies that assumption, which is “Anything that has a beginning, has an end”, with the subject at hand, when “love” begins, it destined to an end, even if it is after a long while, it's not an endless cycle; however grim that sounds, it's true. It always requires two to tango, and as such in love, two have to be involved at all times, once one side has severed the emotional connection for any reason, love cease to exist between the two of them, reminiscing or “one-sided love” - also another false term accredited as a fact, the true word to describe it is admiration - is no love.
“even if you have found a new love”, personally, I like to think that there's nothing called “new love”, since I personally like to believe that “love” only happens once in a lifetime, but I have no evidence supporting that wishful assumption; so I can agree with that part of the statement on rational basis. Moreover, I would not count an “previous love” as “love”, I believe that once one encounters that mystical event, everything is negotiable, compromises will be reached on all levels to reach the status of “we” instead of “me”; if a failure in compromises occurred, then I do not believe that love has occurred in the first place, there's a “no cost is too high” principal involved here; I know, very naïve belief on on my part, but this is how I choose to see and understand the aspects on that part of the matter.
“the sweet memory of the past will continue to hunt you for the rest of your life.” now this part I do not just disagree with, but also hate; it shows real everlasting weakness, the words used even indicate that clearly – as far as I know, the author of that statement is someone who didn't even have the guts to use his full name, and refers to himself as only Jeffery!! –; reminiscing about “lost love” - yet, another false term- is originated from the feelings of being unloved -emotional needs with no dissipation-, reviving the thought of being loved sort-of-speak, does that seem right? Letting residual emotions -or even the illusion of residual emotions- and attention cravings cloud one's sky? How can one get on with one's life this way? I don't simply wonder about the answers to those questions, truth is that after sometime one learns to deal with those, and by time their significance just diminish. Opening Pandora's box again is just a way of self tormenting and will lead to no good, as an example, tricking oneself into thinking that a current emotional connection is more than it really is, a typical “re-bound” situation, ending in not just hurting oneself, and also others, greatly.
No one enjoys being alone, I know that much, but to allow it to fog up one's vision and side-track one's thoughts is the most dangerous action one can take. Facing up to the fact that currently no one is in dire need of your existence for such a purpose is too much to take, but sometimes things are how they are, should one cave in, or should one simply create other purposes for one's existence?
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